When was the last time you said to yourself, “I need to get away!” Maybe 5 minutes ago, maybe yesterday, maybe every day?
Life is so intense for many right now as massive changes are underway. It can be overwhelming, depressing, and sometimes more than we can handle.
Here are six signs that you need a break:
You dread your morning alarm. When you no longer look forward to your day and just want to bury your head under the covers…you need a break
- You have an unusually short fuse. When nearly everyone seems utterly stupid and almost everything seems to frustrate and annoy you…you need a break.
- Everything is a bore. When nothing seems interesting, but you can’t seem to pull yourself away from the internet or channel surfing…it’s time for a break.
- You can’t seem to get on track with your healthy routines. When you keep telling yourself ‘tomorrow…’ as you walk past your yoga mat and reach for that third helping of triple decadent chocolate swirl…it’s time for a break.
- You avoid your usual socializing and everyone wonders where you’ve gone. When you start to isolate yourself and seek solitude from the people who are there to support you the most…you need a break…this is different from avoidance.
- You keep getting sick. There are lots of reasons for getting sick…but when you are under a lot of stress that keeps getting ignored, the body will keep getting louder and louder until you are forced to pay attention. Sometimes the body will cause an accident. So take a break before YOU break.
The need for retreat is not something that just sound like a good idea…it is a necessity. We need time away to recharge, replenish, and reflect. We need to take time to care for the only place we have to live. We need to MAKE time to nurture, care for, and support our body temple and mind sanctuary if we are to ever be at peace.
Nature has some built in systems for retreat and relaxation. Sleep is the first that comes to mind. There is also Mercury retrograde which changes the planetary energy to offer more support and make it easier to reflect, review, restore, rejuvinate…all the ‘re’ words…ahhh retreat!
The first thing I think of when I hear the word retreat is some quiet place to escape to. Usually far away to a destination nestled in the peaceful mountains or along the edge of a serene lake. Maybe this retreat offers yoga, or meditation to further the deepening of looking within.
But maybe you don’t want to go that deep. And maybe you don’t want to go too far. And maybe you don’t have the money to spend on such frivolities. And maybe you don’t have the time. And maybe you are too overwhelmed to even decide where to go. And maybe you just have too many things that need to get done. Do you hear your excuse anywhere here?
The real reason for a retreat is to change how we feel. We desire to look forward to each gift of sunshine when we wake in the morning. We desire to change feeling overwhelmed and irritated into feeling ‘cool, calm, and collected’. We desire a life that is facinating and exciting…one that can be shared with friends and family. We long for greater periods of tranquility, peace and serenity.
While all that relates to the mind, the body also desires to feel rested and energized. It is the vehicle which desires to feel healthy and capable of taking us where we need to go in comfort.
If, for whatever reason or excuse, you feel you are unable to get away for a destination retreat, here are some simple tips on how to create your own get-away space at home. The issue of not taking enough time for your self can stop right here and now buy taking a few easy steps.
Creating Your Mind Sanctuary
1. Most important is to create a space where you can sit quietly undisturbed. It may be an entire room or maybe just the corner.
2. Make it a special place that you look forward to going to. Use a comfortable chair where your feet can reach the floor. Use pictures that make you feel calm and peaceful. Use inspiring quotes. Decorate with candles and your favorite mentors…Mary, Kuan Yin, Buddah, Dali Lama or whomever you connect with. Make it smell yummy…I love incense and essential oils
3. Turn off the phone and computer. Turn off anything that may be disruptive.
4. Let others know you do NOT want to be disturbed. Let them know how long you will be. It’s better to say longer than you intend so that you do not start to feel their energetic pressure. Once they see how much better you feel afterwards, they will begin to welcome your retreats.
3. Create a routine so you have a specific time every day. The beginning of the day is a great way to set the energy for the day. The end of the day is a great way to clear everything you have collected that does not belong to you. If you get off track, keep re-deciding and re-committing everyday to your self care and nurturing.
4. Create a specific intention when you enter this space. Maybe you want to stop blaming others for where you are in your life. Maybe you desire to bring in more forgiveness and self-love. Maybe you want to quiet all the mental chatter so you can gain more clarity. Maybe you desire to let go of needing to control everything and allow more trust in the unfolding of your life. Maybe you want to calm the angry voices that keep beating yourself up. If you can’t think of an intention, you can just intend to release what is not serving you.
How To Use The Space
- If you’ve never done this before, you can just sit quietly with your eyes closed. At first, it’s helpful to have a paper and pencil handy to write those things down that pop up that you don’t want to forget. This will help the mind to relax.
- Avoid the temptation to stay in the mental chatter. The pen and paper is just a tool to help release the obsessing. Once you’ve written it down, let it go. Eventually you will not need this tool as the mind flows more easily.
- If you have a favorite meditation, use that. I like to use a specific system for clearing and releasing energy that is explained in a few videos on my website. I suggest the one on grounding first…”Heal Yourself: Get Grounded.”
- If you have your own style of meditation and you’d like to try something new I suggest the video on my website on “Clearing Your Chakras”. This explains the system I like to use. You can add as many parts to your own meditation as you like.
When you take a break and retreat with intention and a sense of purpose, it becomes spiritual. Being proactive instead of reactive and living your life on purpose is a much more empowered place to dwell.